I do feel like that still needs to add a layer of interactivity to be complete.

From what I've seen most auto-approvers in coding harnesses either auto-approve or auto-reject, with no middle ground of escalating the decision to the user, and breaking down the pros and cons for the decision.

Agreed. The experiment is still in its infancy but the direction is great.

For example, I want to be asked about general shapes/categories of commands as they first appear for a project and then my decision shapes future classification and gets refined and re-scrutinized over time.

But it gets better every few months. Claude and/or Codex now show a one-line summary for the inline python3 script or grep or pcap command they want to run.