Since I'm feeling generous, the words you missed are "fun and confident". One could expand to "comfortable and happy in one's skin", very much not a synonym for cockiness which is prickly and challenging. You can't fake it, it comes and goes for all of us.

OPs friend got laid a lot despite "traditional" defects because of wholesome, fun confidence.

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rhrhfjfjjr44 43 minutes ago | parent [-]

And you don't think the tall, rich, well-endowed man is more likely to be a little more confident than the short, poor micro-penised man?

Put "I'm fun and confident" in your dating profile and I'll put "6'4"" and we'll see how that pans out. You won't be having much fun and your confidence will be shot.

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nixon_why69 40 minutes ago | parent [-]

BEING fun and confident matters. Saying you are is, well, not fun or confident.

A friend of mine, well below 6 feet, once had a dating profile where he went into a weird tangent about loving mac and cheese. A weird, sexual and hilarious tangent, where he started arguing with you, the reader, about why are we still talking about this? I said I never had sex with a bowl of mac and cheese! It was classic and he got a ton of dates from it.

Admittedly online dating sucks and my friend there could have been a comedy writer in another life. It's hard to stand out. But in person? It doesn't matter how many dates your profile did or didn't get, you must be fun and comfortable in your own skin, why spend time with someone who isn't both of those things?

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rhrhfjfjjr44 12 minutes ago | parent [-]

Rich and handsome 6'4" men have no problem standing out. This is the point. Online dating does not suck for them.

Your goofy friend might get lots of updoots on reddit but if he's short and broke it would be <1% of women who don't immediately reject him. They will never even see his mac and cheese bio. Online dating would be a waste of time for him at best; at worst, kiss goodbye to this delusional confidence once the crushing reality manifests.

	▲	nixon_why69 8 minutes ago \| parent [-]
		That's what I'm trying to help you understand. My goofy friend was plowing a trail of pussy through NYC at that time with his fun and confident antics. Below 6 feet and definitely not rich back then. He's doing well now, and married， but hasn't grown any inches. There's a point past this where racking up a number is hollow and meaningless but that's beside the point right now. The thing I'm trying to tell you is that you can have a better and more positive personality even if you can't grow 6 inches. And that better personality is not some incel shit or "negging" or whatever.