That's a very good question that I also don't have an answer to (yet). But I believe part of the reason for that is that were currently still in the middle of this shift, so there's issues of both knowledge about AI and how people relate to it. And of course there's so many different situations here.

Your non-technical parents ask you a question? Use the best tool for the job (might be Claude), then just help them with the task.

Talking to a friend looking for genuine advice? Maybe show them how you use Claude while also answering the actual question.

A lazy person trying to make you do their work? Don't become their Claude interface.

Someone asking a question but actually just trying to open up a conversation? Maybe check-in what their intention behind the question is, and if it's indeed conversation / exploration, leave the phone in your pocket and do that.

I am a software engineer. Most of the times, the people asking are from product management or devops. Devops contractors are the most difficult ones. They have access to the code, they have access to Claude. But they don't use it.