Quite honestly I would use cuda-oxide over rust-cuda for anything new right now....while rust-cuda is more complete, cuda-oxide is more aligned with nvidia's future direction (when we were rebooting rust-cuda we were told to by nvidia to stay with the nvvm layer but their plans changed and it is clearly not where their focus is). It's of course just rust so you could just feature-gate off differences as 80% will probably be the same if you wanted to try both projects.

cuda-tile is great...I would use it for anything written from scratch as it is closer to how the hardware (and projects like triton) work. But there are tradeoffs as it requries your code to be structured a certain way.