I stopped automatically judging things 10 years ago and all of a sudden could enjoy listening to everything. Music theory based on pleasure without accounting for this self-manipulation we're brought up to do isn't solid at all. And expectation making is another thing I stopped doing. I now make music that tends to defy expectations and tonality.

Here's a statistical mechanics paper that I don't quite understand yet, but seems more aligned with the physics of harmony.

https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/sciadv.aav8490

Harmony isn't just the chords made, though. It's about the progression between chords,too.