Dating is different. It's IMO fully inappropriate to draw that comparison.

Professionals act professionally. Ghosting is profoundly unprofessional. It is their job to manage the process with full information. End of story.

> If you can't handle ghosting, maybe you don't belong in the job or dating markets.

Ehhh? This is a very weird, I think silly, perhaps even insulting thing to say. I can handle it. I just think it's rude and unprofessional from a potential employer — someone that I have wasted my time and perhaps might have actually risked my job security to interview with.

Not every employer reacts well when they find out you're out there going to interviews, and they do find out.

As a freelancer, if I go to an interview it is my time they are wasting if they aren't going to handle the process professionally.

How have they wasted less of your time if they write you a letter vs. ghost you? Either way, you spent time preparing for and following their application/interviewing process. I agree ghosting is unprofessional but it doesn't really cost you anything.

One of your last questions in any interview should be "when should I expect to hear your decision" and if you've heard nothing by then, take it as a "no."