> There are some people I'm not friends with anymore who didn't understand conversational bidding.

To you the "bid" feels like a genuine attempt to connect, that may be a bit indirect.

To some people it feels more like you are being disingenuous or awkward. They instinctively feel that your intent doesnt match your words and it sets off alarms bells.

The fact that you're on the internet judging the other party negatively for having a different communication style is an indicator of which party was least willing to adapt.

And you're going to right that wrong by making assumptions.

It's usually not the person who gets asked who acts like an asshole, and if you don't don't want to be judged by people for your behavior, start by not openly and loudly judging them for theirs.

No sympathy for this sort of behavior and you're out of line. Or you're the problem. I'll let you decide since I don't know you.