> we have things like software architecture patterns that can be discussed at a high level without knowing the intricacies. Like you can be aware of load balancing and even use it but be unaware of how load balancing might work algorithmically.

It can be fine as a “user”, but not really as a “designer”. Because discussion about possible solutions is a matter of tradeoffs and tweaking of parameters, not slinging words around. Abstractions are not appliances that are plug and play. They’re often full of parameters that dictate their usefulness and costs, and not understanding those parameters is just roleplaying.