learn by ear! It's free and you don't need youtube!

This is absolutely true...but it takes a LOT of time. Fortunately, I first picked up a guitar when I was 13.

I can't imagine getting started with any instrument as an adult. Actually, I'm trying to improve my piano playing right now and it's nearly impossible.

This is very true. Tabs can help in niche cases where the precision really matters, but most tabs are not that good unless written by the original artist (rare).

If I had spent my first year learning the instrument properly, I wouldn't have wasted the next decade after that fumbling around so much.