I can't say that resonates with me, but I'd say this in short.

I often use coding agents when I'm feeling emotionally tired and finding it hard to get into something and could use the support. I think of it as pair programming with a junior who is really smart in some ways but is prone to lapses of bad judgement. Alternately I think of myself as a foreman on a construction site.

I will start out with a paragraph of two about what i think about the situation, what i want to get done, concerns i have, examples where something similar is done in the code that it should look at. I always ask

"Does this make sense? Do you have any questions for me before we proceed?"

and go back and forth until it says it makes sense and it's questions are resolved. Usually i will wind up saying something like

"That's really good, but I have this little problem, what do you think we can do about it?"

If I am not worried about the cost of tokens I am inclined, when debugging, to write up what I understand about the problem to the agent and ask it what it thinks the problem is and then go race it trying to understand the code in the IDE and/or the use the debugger. Sometimes when the problem is simple but in my intellectual blind spot it really wins!

Another thing I think people forget is that agents are good for code understanding so if don't know how to do something or don't understand how it works, just open it in the IDE and start asking questions.

A lot of times people will complain that agents 'aren't listening to them' and I'm going to say often this is really a symptom of "doesn't know how to code", "not good at thinking systematically", "isn't competent as a subject matter expert". My own take is that sycophancy means that sometimes instead of just confronting you and saying "take this job and shove it", models will just act confused. I know often when that is going on I eventually come to realize that I didn't understand the problem and my prompts were garbage so GIGO. When I talked /w Microsoft Copilot about it, it said that LLMs learn to mimic the patterns we use so if you talk like you are confused... it takes like it is confused.

Yeah, the mimicking pattern thing is very interesting, didn't know that but definitely relevant. Love the way you use it as a pair programmer, definitely best if you want to learn! I would love to know why the idea doesn't resonate with you though. Also, thanks a bunch for the detailed feedback!