I tend to anthropomorphize it as well, and keep reminding myself it's not human. It's not even a robot. Robots have routines, they follow what's burned in and don't ignore their config, outside of the Murderbot fantasies. But Claude (or Opus) ignore them routinely. I fall into asking it in the "could you please ..." manner but that feels wrong. I don't know what the "right" is though. Also when it or others reply "I am sorry" etc, well, these things are not an "I", but what are they?