The second bullet point on the abusive aspects of phones address specifically your argument:

"They tell us the onus is on us to manage their behavior. It’s our job to tiptoe around them and limit their harms. Spending too much time on a literally-designed-to-be-behaviorally-addictive phone? They send company-approved messages about our online time, but ban from their stores the apps that would really cut our use. We just need to use willpower. We just need to be good enough to deserve them."

The abuser's refrain of "it's your fault, look what you made me do" is well-known.