Is latency comparable to wired? Can you trust the connection enough for remote work ?

Absolutely. Starlink outperforms ADSL anytime, and is better than most 4G fixed-wireless-access options. I use it for remote work regularly.

If there's fiber (like GPON) or reliable 5G available, then of course they win. Otherwise, Starlink is better.

I take video calls for work regularly on Starlink. As long as you have clear visibility (eg not under a tree or the porch), it works great. I used to have occasional handover latency spikes, but I haven't noticed those recently.