>Defense spending in the USA is double what is publicly published

Show your work.

>There are all kinds of dark budgets and stuff spun off into "civilian" programs that actually aren't

How much, though, as a percentage of the federal budget? Also, DoD does a lot of stuff that doesn't involved national defense, like breast cancer research or canal and levee maintenance.

>The published cost of Iran War is like $30 Billion when it is obviously over $100 Billion by experts and that doesn't including replacing all the missiles

Those missiles will be replaced in future defense budgets.