One of my children nearly drowned in the bathtub. She was already unconscious and floating on the water. She had stopped breathing. My wife (who was sitting only 3 meters away in the living room and had talked to her the minutes before) revived her. She made a full recovery in the hospital.

I agree in principle. But: the aftereffects of nearly losing a child were already quite destabilizing to us, and still are, after several years. There is an overwhelming feeling that things can go catastrophically wrong, at any second, so why even do anything?

I cannot imagine the effect of actually losing a child. I would go insane.

What you and your wife and indeed child went through was immense enough to be fair I think it is understandable to be destabalized.