So what do you actually recommend?

I like unifi despite the appliance feel. I recommend using the kit that works fire you, but avoiding the temptation to stick everything in a single pane of glass. Use the wifi, don't also cram your routing and switching and firewalling into the same vendor relationship.

It's like being apple-everything. Freedom until you bump into the walls of your cell.

Unifi APs are a sweet spot of price/performance, and I have no difficulty recommending them. Ruckus hardware is better at five times the price.

UISP gear has worked very very well for me for ptp and ptmp. But that's a completely different line.