I don’t have an answer I’m in love with today, I basically just want less moving parts.

As for EKS, having to monitor and manually scale the built in DNS service or else my queries are just going to stop resolving is not the type of thing I expect to have to manage on a managed service. I see they have finally released autoscaling for CoreDNS, though it took them 6 years.

Accidental complexity and essential complexity. There is no working system that achieves all the stated aims with fewer parts. [1]

[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/No_Silver_Bullet