> So I can easily imagine that when you have a software tool whose interface is language, but its user base is extremely wide across both cultural lines and neurodiversity spectrum, it's going to be basically impossible to nail a sweet spot.

> You make it too friendly, and the nerds get mad. You make it too adverserial, and the normies call it rude.

Easy: let the user set for himself how the model should be aligned on this axis (with some pre-defined example setups that the user can use or use as a base for an individual alignment).