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everdrive 2 hours ago

I don't work for Meta, but how many more years do I need to work in tech? I'm in my 40s and my kids are young. I've already set up 529s for them, and am paying for some expensive home upgrades. Maybe when that is finished and I've built up a buffer I can switch industries for the last 5-10 years of my working life. Curious if anyone here has any similar plans.

anticorporate 39 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

I quit tech at 40. I still do cool things with technology, but now at a community-owned grocery co-op.

I can't recommend leaving tech highly enough. My cortisol levels are so much lower than they used to be. I don't have to schedule my life around EMEA and APAC meetings outside of my normal hours. I only work more than 40 hours a week if I feel like it, which I sometimes do, because I actually enjoy my work now. I make a tangible difference for people, and get to work on things I care about. Instead of pleasing investors or VCs, I focus on maximizing impact and breaking even every year.

There are some things that are worse, mostly around compensation and benefits, but I don't really care. I'm lucky to have a working spouse with decent health insurance, so we use hers. We paid off our house and put a ton into savings while I worked in tech. I didn't get rich in the sense that people who work in tech think rich means, but I could probably sell my belongings and live a very good life on a beach somewhere in Latin America at whatever point I choose and never work again. That's likely the plan after my wife's parents are gone.

My advice, actually take the time to research the number you need to quit. Mine ended up being a lot lower than I thought it would be because I had been used to six figure salaries, but never lived above a five figure lifestyle.

HugoTea 26 minutes ago | parent [-]

That's lovely

sollewitt an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I think we need to unionize, across companies. We need to be able to block stuff like this, and to be able to demand that you can’t lay off someone to replace them with AI (bringing US workers rights up to the bar set by China). We also need to be able to hold our leadership to some kind of code of ethics. I don’t want to work for a company that makes kill bots, or can renege on climate pledges.

freakynit 38 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

The best way to unionize is to follow what Mahatma Gandhi did: Non-cooperation movement.

It consists of two broad strategies:

1. Consumer Non-Cooperation (Boycott): Boycott of stuff sold, or given by these companies, irrespective of how attractive it is.

2. The Constructive Program (Self-Reliance): Building and supporting alternatives, even if they cost you a little bit more.

All it needs is little self-discipline and a very very tiny bit of sacrifice on daily basis.

https://www.nextias.com/blog/non-cooperation-movement/

MattDamonSpace 26 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

A heavily unionized tech industry over the last 30yrs would be an interesting counterfactual.

IMO the ability for individual employees to negotiate for themselves is a positive? As is being able to get rid of bad performers

Unionization would hurt the startup ecosystem, at least at the margins, no?

mywittyname 2 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

This is a flawed argument, the current system gets rid of good performers all the time, and we have evidence of wage suppression, so employees don't get to negotiate on fair terms. You just get stuck in your pay band.

I agree it would be a good counter-factual, but I think the differences would be more around industry stability. Particularly, I think the ability for employees to push back against historical threats like off-shoring would have made the industry more appealing to younger people looking for something stable, and prevented this weird cycle of labor shortages causing salaries to explode, unqualified candidates pivoting to the industry using low cost training solutions (bootcamps, shitty masters programs), then companies failing to deliver on initiatives because the people they hired are poorly trained.

If we had 30 years of steady growth in CS education, then we'd have more experts in the field, doing a better job at executing. And it would likely cost companies less in wages as well. There are many industries where incredibly talented people make fairly modest salaries while producing world-changing products.

KaiserPro 7 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

> IMO the ability for individual employees to negotiate for themselves is a positive?

I keep hearing this, but FAANGs don't allow individual negotiations. You are banded, like you would be at a union.

Also you're assuming that unions would be able to, or want to block the firing of bad performers. Since the bad performers would also hurt the bottom line, and therefore your pay.

Unionisation might hurt the startup as it would stop certain levels of exploitation (ie not being able to ask people to work for free in exchange for shares that will be worth nothing.)

daveshistory 9 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

It would be a hard model to pick up and move over and just drop into place. The trades that have union halls for carpenters, electricians, etc., aren't normally working in anything as unstable or dynamic as tech startups. If I try and think back to how things were thirty years ago I don't think it really applies. Unions are for big shop floors where bosses could fire you on a dime and replace you and then you're SOL. Skills in high demand 30 years meant fine, you could just go work somewhere else just as easily. Who expects to be in the same place for 35 years anyways?

9rx 8 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

A union is merely a group of people who agree to work together for a shared benefit. That doesn't mean that there cannot be individual negotiation, nor does it mean you can't get rid of bad performers. There is no reason why it would need to hurt the startup ecosystem either.

If the tech workers wanted those things they could make it so, but they already could have made those things so already and didn't so...

MattDamonSpace 6 minutes ago | parent [-]

Isn’t Collective Bargaining a cornerstone of the Union pitch?

9rx 3 minutes ago | parent [-]

Yes, but that does not preclude layering individual bargaining on top. The collective bargain could simply be something like "you may not track employees", while still leaving each individual employee to negotiate the compensation they seek. If the workers would rather be completely hands-off they could defer all negotiations, but, again, the workers make up the rules. It's whatever they want.

elevation 39 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

> can’t lay off someone to replace them with AI

This measure would either be toothless or it would make it impossible for the most toxic (non-criminal) team members to be fired.

bonsai_spool 31 minutes ago | parent [-]

> or it would make it impossible for the most toxic (non-criminal) team members to be fired.

The issue at present is that everyone is being laid off. If we accept this anti-union trope, let's t least accept that it is strictly better than the current situation where no job is safe.

mattrighetti a minute ago | parent [-]

In my native country unions have crippled the job market and most of my peers don’t see any benefit from them, we actually hate them for the most part.

Unions are just another way to find a single solution that fits everyone and we all know how that turns out. They’re just be another bureaucratic institution for corrupt politicians.

Tons of evidence out there, especially in EU.

fullshark an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

My single minded focus is getting my finances in order so I don't need to work in this industry (financial independence) past 50. It's just getting worse and worse in terms of the open contempt for employees from the top down with no end in sight. Once you reach 50 it's just luck of the draw whether or not you are in the annual culling of the senior folks.

There's no excuse anymore for being ignorant of how this industry works, the mask has been off for years.

JKCalhoun an hour ago | parent | next [-]

Maybe the opposite at Apple? I was told by another engineer (paraphrasing), "They can't lay you off past age 50 without expecting an age-discrimination lawsuit. They'd prefer to give you nothing to do and you leave on your own."

azinman2 an hour ago | parent [-]

But your performance reviews don’t have anything to do with age, so I don’t see how that could be.

coldtea an hour ago | parent [-]

Any review that's not a hard metric can be gamed to be about anything the reviewer cares about.

They don't like your age and prefer some fresh face to pull with no family alnighters and work for half the money? The performance review will show you as lacking motivation or some such shit.

And any review that's based on hard metrics, can be manipulated by the reviewer just as well.

andy99 an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Not replying to the above comment specifically as I obviously don’t know individual circumstances. But I find it ironic that people working in basically surveillance tech, who would gladly get paid to strip mine users’ privacy in order to market to them - you might say having open contempt for their users, suddenly get put off when the same is applied to them.

JKCalhoun an hour ago | parent [-]

Sure, but using the above comment as reference, I think it is increasingly a lot of things that are off-putting in the industry.

wombat-man an hour ago | parent | prev [-]

Yeah same. I guess I'll barista FIRE at some point and maybe have some little side projects here and there.

spicyusername an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I dream about it everyday.

I love building software, but I can't stand working in the industry.

It's such an unholy combination of bad corporate culture and questionable moral principals.

Bnjoroge an hour ago | parent [-]

None of that is specific to this industry. It’s far worse in others. Grass always looks greener elsewhere

selectodude 18 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

Yeah my job sucks shit too, I just make 1/3rd as much as MANGO software engineers.

Should’ve learned to program. At least writing python scripts with Claude has automated a lot of my job away.

Anyway, there’s a support group for your shitty job, it’s called the bar, and we meet daily.

ap99 40 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Came here to say exactly this.

If people don't like building tech that's one thing.

But the problems most of this thread are discussing are just people and organizational problems.

If you want to live and make money you're probably going to have to put up with some level of bullshit.

Find the company with the least of it and enjoy the rest.

coldtea 43 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

When it comes to the shit imposed to the rest of society, and the shit imposed on office workers, it's worse in this industry.

ap99 39 minutes ago | parent [-]

I'd challenge you to point out specifics that are industry wide, not just one company that happens to abuse its employees.

grogers an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Today is my last day at my current employer. After some time off, I'm considering several different options. I have enough saved that retirement is probably doable, although last time I took extended time off I got bored much quicker than I expected. I'm also considering retraining for a different field but that seems kinda daunting, and no certain bet either. I was thinking of doing some open source contributions to test the waters on whether I really want to give up software dev or not. I might do part time work just for something to do and for decent health care. Luckily working in tech has been very lucrative, so there are plenty of options on the table.

hgoel an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I see all this complaining from people in big tech nowadays, but I can't help but wonder, why act like the industry is just big tech?

There are so many small companies, research groups etc that can pay a livable wage (just not as exuberant as big tech) without the ethical scruples, while still posing challenging technical problems.

mrhottakes 4 minutes ago | parent [-]

A large proportion of those smaller companies just cargo cult the practices of the big organizations, so you end up with the same kinds of frustration with the bonus of being paid much less.

kilroy123 2 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I'm 40 and I am DESPERATLY trying to get out of tech. I love building stuff and I don't even mind AI.

However, the industry has just changed so much in the past 2 decades that I find it insufferable.

The leetcode grinding interviews. The bureaucracy. The weird psycho finance people who poured into the industry over time. I just can't stand being a Jira ticket coding monkey anymore.

I'm trying to do my own thing and go my own path. I've deeply suffered financially as a result. I burned through my savings and I don't have any kind of fallback but freelance work.

jm4 11 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Already did it. Own a coffee shop now. I still do some tech work, but it's mostly for my own use.

taude an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I'm curious what industries are you going to switch to, and it is just to get like healthcare, or soemthing...

I've been contemplating the same. Saved my whole life. But I still don't feel like I have enough saved for a long retirement (i'm in US, and not planning on moving abroad for cost of living improvements, like you hear so many people around here tout).

coldtea 42 minutes ago | parent [-]

>and not planning on moving abroad for cost of living improvements

How about quality of life improvements? Or life in general?

sevenzero an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Idk I calculated through my financial needs after retirement for 13 years (67-80) which would be around 400k€ and calculated through my savings I'll accumulate until then, if I keep up my current saving rate. I'll end up saving around 270k€ so ultimately I decided fuck it, Ill just take jobs where I can live comfortably right now and hope for the best in retirement. I take jobs that are fun to me. I have 37 years until retirement and will never be able to afford a house or whatever so I can switch industries whenever I feel like doing so.

JKCalhoun an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Your call, of course. But when in your situation, I looked at when my youngest was to head off to college (when the nest would be empty) and I marked my calendar. To your point, while the rest would empty when I was at the age of 57, it didn't seem like I would need to continue to accumulate the spoils of a software engineer when I had the 529's, the 401k by that point [1].

And so at the appointed time, I walked away.

(My retirement plans though also involved leaving the Bay Area—which I did not want to do while I had kids in school. Selling the Bay Area house, buying one in Nebraska paid the early retirement—why I thought it necessary to move in order to retire.)

[1] Told the wife I could get a job at Home Depot if it looked later like we needed an income injection. (Wondering if I subconsciously want to work at Home Depot.)

mountain_peak 40 minutes ago | parent [-]

About a decade or so ago, I started to see people I used to work with working at Home Depot and Costco. It struck me as odd seeing these brilliant developers stocking shelves and providing advice on sanded vs. unsanded grout.

The more I spoke with, the more I realized that they were there entirely by choice. Most were given packages to "retire", but they were still in their 50s and their spouses hadn't retired yet, hence the job. All of them loved the physical work, interaction, and especially leaving work at work at the end of the day. They seemed relaxed and genuinely happy.

If you end up at Home Depot, chances are you'll really enjoy the work, plus I think they were still using an AS/400 the last time I peeked at their displays!

corps_and_code an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I'm younger than you, and probably haven't been working in tech as long, but I've been having similar thoughts. No kids, so I'm maxing retirement accounts, saving as much as I can, and trying to start my own small software company for niche applications.

Hopefully in a few years I have a couple mildly profitable applications, and I can pull the rip cord on working in tech and coast while I figure out next steps for myself professionally.

baggachipz an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Same here, I just need to figure out what I realistically want to do. Health care is the primary requirement; enough money to get by and not hit my retirement accounts is a relatively close second.

rootusrootus an hour ago | parent [-]

I agree, health care is primary. I see a lot of people on the FIRE forums who are young and haven’t really looked into what insurance can cost in the years leading up to Medicare eligibility age. It’s the best argument for working until close up 60.

Personally, I’ve focused on finding a place I enjoy being, rather than optimizing for income and planning to retire ASAP.

alistairSH an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Nothing solid, but if I have to spend 55-62 pouring beer at my local pub to cover medical insurance, I won’t be sad.

Or I’ll finally get around to obtaining an Irish passport and move to the Med.

jryan49 2 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I've been thinking about it a lot. I've been looking into becoming an electrician for maybe like 6 years before I retire.

dyauspitr 7 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I’ve been searching. I can’t find anything else that pays even remotely close to tech. It’s a sea of $40-60k jobs with a lot of work at the ground level.

inoffensivename an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

In my early 40s here, FAANG for 20 years, definitely don't see myself working in tech for much longer.

gaoshan 42 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I'm 57. I was a photojournalist until I was 36. I quit shortly after 9/11 (which I covered) to move with my wife to her new job and start a freelance career. That was 90% trying to gin up work and 10% photography and I was not a natural fit. I struggled financially (even though at one point a NYT photo editor reached out to me to say that they loved an essay I had done on China and they used it for inspiration for one of their younger photographers... still no work that paid enough to support my family). I pivoted to building websites.

It took me a long time to teach myself how to do this and I was making sites for family and friends (weddings, birth announcements) before finally starting to gain traction building sites for local businesses. Eventually a small marketing firm started using me for content updates and then bigger and bigger things. I build sites, created user management systems, handled databases and struggled to learn it all because my fine arts mind was chaotically bouncing all over the place with ideas and designs and finding there were a dozen different ways to do anything. After a few years of this I moved to a large consulting firm, quickly became a technical manager (mostly coding and problem solving but some people management). Then I moved to another and another. By the end I was leading small teams and working with some San Francisco based companies (as a contractor... no bonuses and I was hiring and managing people earning twice what I did). I eventually decided to move to work on a product at a single company.

Pay increased, bonuses appeared but I was now in my 50s and realizing that the corporate ladder favored me about as well as the marketing and sales part of photojournalism had. I am pretty much stalled out now. Salary is solid, bonus is great, upward trajectory has stalled and I am in my late 50's.

All of this is to say, I have given no thought to switching industries at this age. I think it would be too daunting and I am not willing to give up the higher salary that tech is providing this late in the game. I am holding tight (hopefully, lol... sigh) until 62 because my slow start in the industry and lean early years means that I will need to add social security into my income streams in order to lead the life I want to in retirement. I cannot afford the overall cost of living without that extra chunk added to my retirement drawdowns.

zingababba an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I 24/7 never stop thinking about leaving tech at this point. Dependents is what makes the decision in any way complicated for me. When you have others that have become accustomed to a certain level of comfort, telling them you want to take that away so you personally don't have to deal with the absolute hell that is 'agentic' corporate america becomes a real pain in the ass.

scottious an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I understand and sympathize with the motivation here... but not all software engineering is bad. The best job I've ever had was working on cancer research as a software engineer. Brilliant biologists need engineers to help them run their analysis at scale to make discoveries. It was a non-profit, people genuinely cared and the org was good. Pay wasn't FAANG competitive of course, but my point is that not all software jobs are terrible.

__MatrixMan__ an hour ago | parent [-]

Is that research still happening?

I began pursuing a biology degree on the side maybe 3 years ago so I can do that kind of work. Several of my professors are involved with projects that have recently lost funding due to NIH cuts and can't retain their engineering support. It hasn't been encouraging.

scottious 12 minutes ago | parent [-]

Fair point. I don't know the answer to that question but we definitely live in one of the worst timelines right now.

bdcravens an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I don't plan on leaving technology, but I am scaling up a side hustle as a hedge.

bluefirebrand an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I'm pretty much there right now too. I'm not quite 40, but I want out

Not sure what to do next, I know it probably won't pay as well, but damn I want out

Im thinking about getting certifications to become a drone pilot. Try and get on with a GIS firm to do aerial surveys for farm land or mining companies or something

adamtaylor_13 28 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Leaving tech altogether and working for dystopian companies like Meta are just two choices in a broad band of possibilities. You could also go work for yourself.

deadbabe 38 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

If I can get a few more good years in the stock market and save and invest as much as possible I could probably be done in 5 years and not have to work anymore or just work till I’m fired.

infraredshift an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

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fontain an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

As people in tech we live very expensive lives but if you are in a major city and own your own home and have worked for a decade or more you probably have a lot more opportunity to retire today than you might think. Even with children, life can be much less expensive by moving to a low cost of living area. Often in online discussions about FIRE (Financial Independence, Retire Early) high income people will discuss needing many millions to retire, but you can retire on less.

Switching industries is a romantic idea but it is very difficult, especially going from the tech world with big money to the normal world with small money. You can still work to keep yourself busy but thinking about it as retirement will better help you plan. Going part time in tech is usually more sustainable than trying to switch industries.

A good place to start is thinking about what you want from life without work. Where do you want to be? Where does your partner and your kids want to be? What do they want out of life? From there you can assess the financial needs and plan accordingly.

_ZeD_ an hour ago | parent | prev [-]

> how many more years do I need to work in tech?

The right answer should be "until you are able to do it".

That's the whole premise of welfare. Anything less or more is privilege/vice

9rx an hour ago | parent [-]

Working in tech until you are able to do it is sage advice, but getting employers on board is difficult. Usually being able to do it is a prerequisite to begin working in tech in their eyes.