Let me preface this by saying, I know this might be a privileged take. However, I've had some bad interview experiences but one thing I have never had happen and I never will do is cross the "just business"/"personal" line with anyone I may or am working with.

> hardest day of my life, my biggest life challenges, and other similar “trauma-baiting” questions.

I would take these types of questions as "from a professional standpoint". If the interviewer corrected and wanted personal answers, the interview would be over.

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simgt 13 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

Thanks for that sensible answer, had to scroll down quite a while to find you there.

The real problem is that for many people it takes a while to realize you're being abused, in that case it was only a while after.

I highly recommend learning the basics of persuasion and how to manipulate people. It helps identifying the signs early.

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WatchDog an hour ago | parent | prev [-]

> ...I never will do is cross the "just business"/"personal" line with anyone I may or am working with.

Just in an interview situation, or you will just never be open to a personal friendship with anyone you ever work with?

	▲	kxrm 27 minutes ago \| parent [-]
		> you will just never be open to a personal friendship with anyone you ever work with? Building relationships with colleagues is possible but I have tried to be careful. I have made some friends over time that were once co-workers. However, they were only able to move to full friend once they moved on to other teams or companies. I don't see someone I work with day-to-day as a personal friend. I compartmentalize them, keep the relationship professional and cordial. Moving someone to a personal friend has risks, especially if there is a chance you may work for or with them again. Some personal friendships may be able to outlast work drama, but so far I haven't had that happen for me. I've lost a few along the way due to negative conditions at work. Have you had a personal friend that stayed around after leaving a bad situation at work? Any pointers?