> rather than directly interact with one that's specifically designed to accommodate them?

Because a world where that happens consistently doesn't exist, it hasn't existed for the last 20 years we've been using ARIA tags, and won't ever exist.

Your advice to "avoid aria tags" would make that a self-fulfilling prophecy. The ways to make it happen:

1. A robust set of web primitives that are accessible by default, and

2. A government that will actually enforce laws (which already exist!) requiring websites to be accessible