I think we might just disagree, and that's okay

the effectiveness of online ad targeting enables a lot more businesses to be profitable, this is indisputable

it is still a choice to say "I need to run a visual art business that makes $X" as much as it is to say "I need to be a software engineer that makes $Y"

giving Meta money is the easiest option, of course

if you feel you can't achieve your goals without giving Meta money, that's fine, but maybe don't judge those who feel they can't achieve their goals without working for Meta