> The drinks and food are obviously secondary to the point of the spend in that case though.

Spending on drinks and food is never required to have the date. It makes the date good but it isn't what makes the date possible. You're going to eat anyway, you may as well eat with someone.

> An app is just another option to find someone

And "find someone" is an activity that largely hasn't cost money for all but the last 15 years of human existence. Relying on apps to make dates possible is dangerous.

> You may not like that option, for other people it might even be the only realistic one

We should examine why that is, or if it's even true. People have never had trouble pairing up before. Or at least, not troubles that have gone away in the dating app era. From the data it isn't obvious that dating apps make the process of partner-finding better - everyone sounds miserable, long-term relationship formation is down. Skepticism about technology that costs money, doesn't even work, and reduces happiness is warranted.

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tpm 4 hours ago | parent [-]

I respect your resilience to route around the points I'm trying to make. But being a contrarian for the sake of it isn't a good way to engage in fruitful discussions.

> And "find someone" is an activity that largely hasn't cost money for all but the last 15 years of human existence.

That's completely false. Courtship involved money since forever (and also paid dating apps are older than 15 years).

> People have never had trouble pairing up before.

People have always had trouble pairing up.

	▲	triceratops an hour ago \| parent [-]
		> People have always had trouble pairing up. And dating apps have eliminated these problems? I posit that the old problems remain and dating apps have added new ones on top. > Courtship involved money since forever Courtship required, or at least benefited from, demonstrable financial stability. Because that's an attractive quality in a mate for many people. But that's no different from saying "Courtship involved looks\|religion\|health/fertility since forever". Courtship didn't previously require paying an intermediary to engage in. There's a distinction here that you either can't or don't want to understand. > also paid dating apps are older than 15 years But only in the last 15 years have they taken over dating.