The other person says "join a community", but those forms of community which are strong are so often unfriendly to weird people like us. For example, Southeast European cafe culture might still bring neighbours (well, at least the men) together daily over the decades, but someone unable to talk about football or engage in hyper-masculine banter is likely to feel left out and thought cringe.

We might look back on the early millennium, before Covid's devastating effect on groups meeting for special interests, as a golden age when even the weird could find their in-personal socializing niche. (Now someone might claim all is well in their neck of the words, but there are whole cities around the world where people are reporting the hobby events scene as nearly dead.)