I've gotten into my 40s and honestly I've dropped about 25% of my friends - as they are also in their 40s but drink a lot and worse do cocaine. They also are really into making fun of each other. Maybe I'm an old bore, but none of that appeals. I haven't burnt my bridges but I much prefer to spend time with people that are healthy, into reading, are positive. I just can't be bothered... Still I may change my mind in time - but I am aiming for a long stint of not seeing the boys. I am married now and with my first kid (10 weeks old) and that has definitely made me time poor. But I only now text the friends that actually matter to me now.

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coldtea 4 hours ago | parent | next [-]

>as they are also in their 40s but drink a lot and worse do cocaine. They also are really into making fun of each other.

Can I get your friends?

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whatever120 4 hours ago | parent [-]

His “friends” sound awful. Why would you want them?

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exolymph 2 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Partying is fun!

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ElevenLathe 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Better awful friends that no friends at all IMO.

	▲	breakpointalpha 2 hours ago \| parent [-]
		No, it's infinitely worse for your life to be surrounded by bad decision makers.

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red-iron-pine 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

don't yuck his yum

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karmakurtisaani 4 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

He might also be awful, no shame in that (a little shame in that tho).

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loeg 5 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

I find it's pretty easy to make new friends with other people doing healthy activities (I'm not in my 40s but many of the people I meet doing sports are).