This is an interesting jumble of truths and illusions (not to fault you, but illusions as in deceptive perspectives imposed on you, while at the same time claiming that others are falling for deceptions/propaganda). You are almost right on several things, but the perspective would have to shift to see things for what they really are, how they function and why.

I will not bother addressing most of the things you listed that require a perspective shift, because I am not trying to start a debate or conjure the ire of people's cognitive dissonance; but knowing quite a bit about NATO, let me just put it this way; in most abusive and delusional dynamics, what one party believes is true, is usually really not only advantageous to the other party, but usually also not even close to the perceived nature of the relationship. European NATO "patterns" don't get to take their families to the USA for government subsidized vacations and even live in the USA just out of the generosity of our hearts.