I feel your pain. Parenting is exhausting, especially the first two years or so. Hang in there, it gets a lot better. Lowering standards also helps (Does the house really need to be that clean? Does the toddler need a bath every day?)

Our doctor told us not to give the baby/toddler a bath every day. Didn’t need to tell me twice.

(Every second day is fine, and better for their skin.)

The strange thing is the infant years seem tiring in a different and more tolerable way than when they are interactive and running all over the place.

The babies being potatoes phase if visiting my life again would benefit from transferable skills that you simply don't have as the first time parent.