> The main issue is connection drops. You can see it easily in gnome where the ethernet connection constantly drops and comes back up.

I never ever saw that and I'm literally using usb-to-ethernet adapters on Linux since forever. It's about the chipset you're using and how the kernel supports it no? For example for 2.5 Gbit/s ethernet if you go with anything with a Realtek RTL8156B (and not the older non 'B') or anything more recent it should work flawlessly.

Before buying I look on the Internet for users' returns / kernel support what the latest chipset the cool kids on the block are using.

As I've been perfectly happy with Realtek 8156B for 2.5 Gbit/s if I wanted to buy a 10 Gbit/s one, I'd look at cool kids, like that Jeff Geerling dude from TFA/Youtube, and see he's using a Realtek 8159 and I'd think: "Oh that's close to mine, I trust that to work very well".

I literally still even have an old USB2.0-to-100Mbit/s that I use daily and that has never failed me neither (it's for an old laptop that I use as some kind of terminal over SSH). I don't recommend 100 Mbit/s: my point is that it's been many moons all this has flawless support under Linux.

> Is this just my hardware?

To me it's due to a poor chipset / poor chipset support in the USB-to-ethernet adapter you're using.

These things, when they're a well supported chipset, are flawless.