I used to drink a small amount of blisteringly strong coffee in the morning and after lunch, but nowadays I drink a massive amount of relatively weak coffee throughout the entire day. Weaker than you'd ever get from a shop or in an office.

That's been a big win for me: I feel like I get to enjoy the coffee more, and it eliminated the negative effects for me.

I no longer feel like I suffer when I don't have it. I miss it, the way I miss the sunlight in my office on a cloudy morning, but it's strictly a positive for me when it's around. I only get headaches if I go from 100 to 0, even one day of reduced intake is enough to avoid it for me.

When I'm exhausted and going to bed, I'll go fill the coffee machine, and catch myself thinking "oh boy, it's going to feel so great to wake up at 6am and drink this". Then I shake my head at myself and laugh and how absurd that sounds :D

Coffee is above running hot water in my hierarchy of needs. Seriously. If I were forced to choose between coffee and alcohol for the rest of my life, I'd choose coffee in a heartbeat.