As a anti-social person and a misanthrope, these are all tips for amateurs that assume you must be in a relationship with other people. This is not true. One can be a hermit and enjoy the solitude. My comment here is not designed for replies and social interaction. I'm making it to test my idea against the wisdom of the crowds in case someone can enlighten me about where I might be wrong. I'm seeking information, not society. This is grating to me even as I write it. Who do I think I am? That doesn't make it any less true.

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dmbche 3 hours ago | parent | next [-]

You are forced to see the world through your own biases (including things like having two arms and seeing the visible light spectrum, not just who you vote for).

Many of these biases are common in humans, and humans can exchange ideas.

It can be enlightening to test your biases against real human being to see which ones are valid and which ones are things you've picked up along the way and might not be fruitful to you now.

Because you only see life through your own eyes, you definitionally can't examine yourself in isolation, and you can't know how you are affected by yourself.

I've found exchanging with others fruitful, even when I don't want to and find it repellant.

Have a good one

	▲	labrador 3 hours ago \| parent \| next [-]
		John Donne said "No man is an island" but other poets and philosophers have said we are essentially alone in this world. I understand the first point, but experience the second, but not fully because I do have a few valued connections with others. There are always exceptions to the general condition. You have a good one too.
	▲	RankingMember 2 hours ago \| parent \| prev [-]
		> I've found exchanging with others fruitful, even when I don't want to and find it repellant. Agreed. It's almost like taking bitter medicine for me- I loathe the idea of going to outings and meeting new people, but however tired I am afterwards from masking, some part of me comes away better off for it (assuming I'm not being forced to do it all the time).

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throw4847285 an hour ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Then why are you posting here? You must require some kind of social interaction. Is arguing with people on HN meeting your needs, or are the alternatives all too scary and alienating to consider?

In general, I am skeptical when anybody says, "I am a ______." We vastly overstate what aspects of our condition are innate and which are merely habitual. I have seen many people with misanthropic tendencies find balance, and many others sink into the mire.

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erikerikson 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Asocial seems more accurate than antisocial.

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labrador 3 hours ago | parent [-]

Yes I agree. That's a better word and what I was hoping for. Thanks.

	▲	monknomo 31 minutes ago \| parent [-]
		not to be offensive, but the idea of an asocial labrador is hilarious

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9rx 3 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

> I'm making it to test my idea against the wisdom of the crowds in case someone can enlighten me about where I might be wrong.

Which is the same reason everyone else seeks relationships with other people. That is the value social interaction brings. Now that you've cracked the code, so to speak, do you find this behaviour grating because you don't normally like to have your thoughts and ideas challenged/enlightened?