Ah, I remember back in the day when "trust me I work in a telco and this is just dumb" people were really really silent after the room 641a stuff got leaked.

So now the random ex-boyfriend has access to the same tools as 3 letter agencies, got it.

If you live in a country where you cannot trust law enforcement then there isn't much your telco can do. But specifically, these surveillance tools are not available to us.