I read their comment, flashback to years of growing up, trying to salvage an unsalvageable situation, and my now non-existent family all came rushing in at once. I saw red, almost posted the one sentence putdown version....glad I took a step back and data-fied it. Learned a bit myself, and I really appreciate you said this. Don't have words for why. Cheers.

I mentioned in another comment here that I lived next to a family dealing with a challenging situation. They have my infinite respect for doing their best with a life-altering condition. I saw, and know, how hard it was for them, but they pressed on. Well, same for you and yours. Thanks for doing what you can.