TLS (the IETF Working Group not the protocol family named for them) have long experience with the fact that if you specify how B is compatible with A based on how you specified A and ship B what you did won't work because the middleboxes are all cost optimized and don't implement what you specified but instead whatever got the sale for the least investment.

So e.g. they'd work for exactly the way you use say TLS 1.0 in the Netscape 4 web browser which was popular when the middlebox was first marketed, or maybe they cope with exactly the features used in Safari but since Safari never sets this bit flag here they reject all connections with that flag.

What TLS learned is summarized as "have one joint and keep it well oiled" and they invented a technique to provide that oiling for one working joint in TLS, GREASE, Generate Random Extensions And Sustain Extensibility. The idea of GREASE is, if a popular client (say, the Chrome web browser) just insists on uttering random nonsense extensions then to survive in the world where that happens you must not freak out when there are extensions you do not understand. If your middlebox firmware freaks out when seeing this happen, your customers say "This middlebox I bought last week is broken, I want my money back" so you have to spend a few cents more to never do that.

But, since random nonsense is now OK, we can ship a new feature and the middleboxes won't freak out, so long as our feature looks similar enough to GREASE.

ECH achieves the same idea, when a participating client connects to a server which does not support ECH as far as it knows, it acts exactly the same as it would for ECH except, since it has neither a "real" name to hide nor a key to encrypt that name it fills the space where those would fit with random gibberish. As a server, you get this ECH extension you don't understand, and it is filled with random gibberish you also don't understand, this seems fine because you didn't understand any of it (or maybe you've switched it off, either way it's not relevant to you).

But for a middlebox this ensures they can't tell whether you're doing ECH. So, either they reject every client which could do ECH, which again that's how you get a bunch of angry customers, or, they accept such clients and so ECH works.