If it's going to make you feel better, I'm pretty same with you. I want to be able to see and feel that everything I use, let it be software or hardware (from keyboard to washing machine and to car) is working smoothly and happily with lots of design tolerance left.

While I'm also very engineering inclined, I was like that since very young age. Maybe it's how my brain is wired, or a natural extension of my curiosity, I don't know.

From what I observe, many people doesn't know what's normal and what's not. This is two pronged. Most of the people doesn't know that they are running to the limit unless the tool misbehaves or breaks down. A minority just don't care. They either don't value, or think that machines are meant to be used that way.

Either way, it's more not being knowledgeable than being malicious against devices, at least from my experience.