> I am worried about the inequality created for the kids if I am strict about rules, but other parents are not.

Different families can choose to raise their children differently. Please let other parents make their own parenting choices for their own kids.

There are parents who are more strict with their kids than you are in ways you don’t agree with. I guarantee you wouldn’t be happy if they were lobbying to force your kids to obey their chosen set of rules because they didn’t want “inequality”.