Nothing is destroyed by a force push. It just overwrites a single pointer, and even keeps its old value in reflog.

Things that aren't referenced by anything anymore will eventually get garbage collected and actually destroyed, but you can just keep a reference somewhere to prevent that from happening if you need. Or even disable garbage collection completely.

Looks like people's fears about git come just from not knowing what it does.

You can't use the remote reflog to revert what you force pushed, can you? But I agree that having your local reflog means you're never totally lost. I still just make a branch before major edits so I can go back.