I once went on a date with someone who did research at OKCupid who told me that they were doing NLP-style analysis of peoples' messages that they sent to each other. Still not really sure what to think of the date itself, but it was a fucked up admission.

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probably_wrong an hour ago | parent | next [-]

If you remember the old OkCupid blog they used to post interesting articles about online dating. I know their article about whether you should smile on your profile picture was eventually debunked [1], but it was nonetheless nice to have objective, data-based, non-pua advice on how to be successful in online dating.

[1] https://blog.photofeeler.com/okcupid-is-wrong-about-smiling-...

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scottyah 40 minutes ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I did like that they shared a lot of hard data with insightful analysis. At the time, there were a lot of narratives about what women wanted and it was refreshing to see them post what was actually working. I remember being skeptical about anything being private online at the time, but I guess that perspective wasn't as pervasive.

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m463 3 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

makes me wonder if the person you went on a date with cherry-picked you due to your data. (anyone who would post on hacker news is obviously a good catch!)

	▲	toast0 3 hours ago \| parent \| next [-]
		> anyone who would post on hacker news is obviously a good catch! "the odds are good, but the goods are odd" may apply here
	▲	scottyah 38 minutes ago \| parent \| prev \| next [-]
		If only they had the long term data too. It might make for easier discussions on the first date, but maybe there's more to opposites attracting/different roles in a relationship.
	▲	chaps 3 hours ago \| parent \| prev [-]
		You're funny. I think the "only thing" that would make me cherry-pickable from their data is that I used an autoclicker to give everyone a 5 star... I have mixed feelings about doing that, but I got a couple (surprisingly nice) dates out of it that never went anywhere.