> C and C++ are usually stuck in that antiquated thinking that you should build a module, package it into some libraries, install/export the library binaries and associated assets, then import those in other projects. That makes everything slow, inefficient, and widely dangerous.

It seems to me the "convenient" options are the dangerous ones.

The traditional method is for third party code to have a stable API. Newer versions add functions or fix bugs but existing functions continue to work as before. API mistakes get deprecated and alternatives offered but newly-deprecated functions remain available for 10+ years. With the result that you can link all applications against any sufficiently recent version of the library, e.g. the latest stable release, which can then be installed via the system package manager and have a manageable maintenance burden because only one version needs to be maintained.

Language package managers have a tendency to facilitate breaking changes. You "don't have to worry" about removing functions without deprecating them because anyone can just pull in the older version of the code. Except the older version is no longer maintained.

Then you're using a version of the code from a few years ago because you didn't need any of the newer features and it hadn't had any problems, until it picks up a CVE. Suddenly you have vulnerable code running in production but fixing it isn't just a matter of "apt upgrade" because no one else is going to patch the version only you were using, and the current version has several breaking changes so you can't switch to it until you integrate them into your code.

This is all wishful thinking disconnected from practicalities.

First you confuse API and ABI.

Second there is no practical difference between first and third-party for any sufficiently complex project.

Third you cannot have multiple versions of the same thing in the same program without very careful isolation and engineering. It's a bad idea and a recipe for ODR violations.

In any non-trivial project there will be complex dependency webs across different files and subprojects, and humans are notoriously bad at packaging pieces of code into sensible modules, libraries or packages, with well-defined and maintained boundaries. Being able to maintain ABI compatibility, deprecating things while introducing replacement etc. is a massive engineering work and simply makes people much less likely to change the way things are done, even if they are broken or not ideal. That's an effort you'll do for a kernel (and only on specific boundaries) but not for the average program.