> Sorry, anonymous people on reddit aren't a good comparison.

Yeah especially on r/AmITheAsshole. Those comments never advocate for communication, forgiveness and mending things with family.

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LinXitoW an hour ago | parent | next [-]

Well, because that's never the correct choice. There's a big big filter on people actually posting there. Any easy problems with obvious solutions never make it to there.

Think about it, how fucked does your relationship have to be to post on Reddit for advice?

	▲	Robotbeat 31 minutes ago \| parent \| next [-]
		Someone has a chart somewhere that shows responses in that subreddit getting more and more anti-conciliatory over time. I think it’s online misanthropy (measured by Reddit responses) increasing over time rather than it being objectively never the correct choice.
	▲	BoorishBears an hour ago \| parent \| prev [-]
		This wrongly assumes people are good at judging what easy problems are. Not to mention nowadays an untold amount of posts to subreddits that invite commentary are made up stories from accounts trying to get engagement.

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SJMG 2 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Yes, it is a toxic sub, where the notion that there can be greater happiness on the other side of forgiveness than cutting ties is all but absent.

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JumpCrisscross 2 hours ago | parent [-]

To be fair, it’s easier to concisely explain cutting someone off than justifying forgiveness. And the latter will land with some people versus others, while the former will only be rejected by people who have themselves concluded a theory of forgiveness. As a result, the simpler pitch gets upvoted. Even if the majority would have been swayed by a collection of arguments the other way.

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theoreticalmal 2 hours ago | parent [-]

It’s a good theory. My theory is, for whatever reason, jaded, narcissistic, miserable people congregate in r/AITA and try to drag other people into their misery because that’s easier than accepting responsibility and doing something to change.

	▲	BoorishBears an hour ago \| parent [-]
		Before Reddit made hiding profiles easy you'd click on a user's unreasonably scorched earth advice to the OP, and find their post history is essentially going to every story they come across and advocating for scorched earth.

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brikym 2 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I believe this. There is a graph somewhere of the relationship subs tending towards breaking up over time.

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Iulioh 2 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

It's often that a lot of "NTA" answers are downright antisocial.

"No one owns you anything, you don't own anyone anything" mentality, without a crumb of social awareness.