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cucumber3732842 a day ago

>After a breakup I started being more active again...

Was it the changes or the breakup itself? Most men don't get "good" at dating until they become a certain amount of jaded. Hence the stereotypical freshly divorced man mopping the floor with the dating pool. The changes sure wouldn't have hurt, but still.

jimbokun a day ago | parent | next [-]

Is there a stereotype about newly divorced men being really good at dating?

If anything I thought it was the opposite.

Jensson 13 hours ago | parent [-]

Divorced men have an easier time finding dates, yes.

> If anything I thought it was the opposite.

Think of it in another context, who do you think have an easier time getting a job, a guy with 10 years of experience that currently doesn't have a job or a guy that never had a job? It is possible the guy with 10 years of experience got fired for a good reason, but on average most people want the guy with experience.

Men don't evaluate women for the same things, so it can be a bit hard to understand, but it makes perfect sense once you understand it. Rather it is weird that men don't value women with experience the way women do with men.

kapep a day ago | parent | prev [-]

The breakup after years of relationship certainly was a big change in my live. I broke up but I don't think that made me jaded. I get what you mean though, I would say I got a bit more jaded after getting more confidence and that helps now. But that was long after I noticed increasing interest from women.