Seconding the use of p4merge for easy-to-use three-pane merging. Just like most other issues with Git, if your merges are painful it's probably due to terrible native UX design - not due to anything conceptually wrong with Git.

Did you know that VS Code added support for the same four-pane view as p4merge years ago? I used p4merge as my merge tool for a long time, but I switched to VS Code when I discovered that, as VS Code’s syntax highlighting and text editing features are much better than p4merge’s.

I also use the merge tool of JetBrains IDEs such as IntelliJ IDEA (https://www.jetbrains.com/help/idea/resolve-conflicts.html#r...) when working in those IDEs. It uses a three-pane view, not a four-pane view, but there is a menu that allows you to easily open a comparison between any two of the four versions of the file in a new window, so I find it similarly efficient.

Thirding it except I do it from Emacs. Three side-by-side pane with left / common ancestor / right and then below the merge result. By default it's not like that but then it's Emacs so anything is doable. I hacked some elisp code a great many years ago and I've been using it ever since.

No matter the tool, merges should always be presented like that. It's the only presentation that makes sense.