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abcde666777 17 hours ago

I mean, I don't disagree with the sentiment of keeping trans ideology away from kids, in exactly the way I'd want to protect them from any kind of religious indoctrination.

simonask 17 hours ago | parent | next [-]

The idea that even a single person in the world is trans because of "trans ideology" is what's absolutely insane here.

If you think you could be convinced by anyone that you're not living out your true gender identity, I have news for you... Most people, children too, are not having those thoughts unless there's actually a journey waiting for them.

abcde666777 15 hours ago | parent | next [-]

The idea that none of them are trans for that reason is what sound insane to me. Are you not aware of how much humans absorb from the messaging in their environment?

And FYI, I've seen it happen with one of my own family members - someone who so far as I can tell isn't 'a man in a woman's body', but rather just someone who never fit in and was always a bit of a social outcast.

Their struggle was never their bloody gender, it was their struggle to find a way to fit into the world.

And that's what a lot of transitioning actually is. Because human psychology works such that when we're not fitting in, when we feel insecure and out of place, a subconscious pressure emerges to reinvent ourselves due to the current formula not working for us.

It's offensive to me that you'd make such claims whilst clearly so naive about it.

simonask 7 hours ago | parent [-]

I just think it's really dangerous to think you know better than another person about their internal struggles.

While you may think they are being affected by certain kinds of messaging, you also have to interrogate that you yourself are being affected by other kinds of messaging, shaping your view on how gender functions.

This is the exact same reasoning behind anti-gay laws around the world: That telling people it's OK to be gay will cause them to somehow "choose" to be gay, which to anyone who is actually either straight or gay is completely absurd - they couldn't change that aspect of themselves even if they wanted to.

signalfour 16 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Is it really insane? In the detrans community, it's not uncommon for people to see their transition as ideologically led, see e.g. https://lacroicsz.substack.com/p/by-any-other-name.

simonask 15 hours ago | parent [-]

OK, sure, there’s going to be confused and vulnerable people making mistakes. As I understand it, the detrans community is a tiny fraction of an already tiny fraction who ever in their life identified as trans.

This isn’t an actual risk to anybody, and I can’t believe I have to say that.

AuryGlenz 14 hours ago | parent | next [-]

It’s weird to say in the same comment “it happens but as far as I know it’s rare” and “this isn’t an actual risk to anybody.”

I do wonder how many would detransition if it wasn’t too embarrassing for them or because they’re effectively stuck that way if they did bottom surgery. Certainly I’m sure there are many more that quietly do it and not be a part of a community around it - I know of one person who did.

I’m sure there are many reasons people transition. For instance, there used to be a subreddit that collected (many) trans people commenting on how much them transitioning or being the other gender turned them on (Reddit being Reddit, it was banned). Some might do it because it feels like a way to get a new start. Some might do it because it’ll get them attention. Some, I’m sure, do it because they genuinely feel like they have the wrong body.

All of those could (of course) be affected by social interactions, with only the last one being positive. Unfortunately it would be really hard for us to ever know the true statistics, as that sort of thing is hard for even the person experiencing it to suss out.

jjj123 5 minutes ago | parent | next [-]

> I do wonder how many would detransition if it wasn’t too embarrassing for them

Well I wonder how many would transition in the first place if the culture (and law) allowed for gender fluidity without judgement or violence.

Also: not speaking for all queer people here, but if a person wants to detransition because they changed their mind/feel differently as they age/whatever the fuck reason, that’s fine!

jiggawatts 7 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

> It’s weird to say in the same comment “it happens but as far as I know it’s rare” and “this isn’t an actual risk to anybody.”

Orders of magnitude more people are maimed, disfigured, or outright killed by:

1. Guns.

2. Vehicles.

3. Alcohol.

Weirdly, suspiciously weirdly, the people that are vehemently for age-verification to protect potential trans-indoctrination victims from any risk of bodily harm are the very same people that are very much in favour of those three things. Or at least, show zero apparent interest in using age verification to block 2nd amendment nuts spreading their propaganda -- and I use the word very literally -- because the NRA is funded by Russia[1], or blocking young impressionable kids watching Nascar and being influenced to engage in dangerous speeding, or blocking alcohol advertising from ever being seen by a minor.

[1] https://www.npr.org/2019/09/27/764879242/nra-was-foreign-ass...

chinabot 15 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

Respectfully, not everyone shares this view.

Dig1t 16 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

Do you believe that children are more impressionable than adults? There is a community of detrans people who talk openly about how they became trans because they were influenced by peers and authority figures in their lives.

Go read some threads on the detrans subreddit.

gzread 16 hours ago | parent [-]

Maybe we shouldn't hide the information then, so they can make their own decisions. Imagine blocking all the information about "am I actually trans or just peer pressured?" but not blocking the peer pressure.

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legacynl 3 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Since you compare it to religious indoctrination: I wouldn't want my child to be indoctrinated into believing some religion, but I still want my children to learn about religion. Not because I think it's important, but because we live on a world where a lot of people DO consider that very important. We don't have to agree, but we should at least try to understand the people around us. The same way I don't think there is any harm in learning kids about trans people, and what might cause someone to decide something radical like trying to change their gender.

Can you explain what you mean with trans ideology? because AFAIK 'ideology' means a collection of beliefs or philosophies, and I don't really understand how that applies to a physiological condition, like it does in the case of religion.

WarmWash 17 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

Firey take there, but I know a few people who are trans and neck deep in the kool aid. They will tell you that 25-30% of population is trans, and just haven't been liberated/are in denial.

Look, it's cool to be trans, no problem. These women I know are good people and net contributors to society. But they are off the ideological deep-end, and would happily spend 3 hours at the family BBQ lecturing an impressionable 13 year old about how those weird body feelings are very likely gender dismorphia. They're just as drunk on their flavor of delusional social media as any other religious nut is crazy about God.

poly2it 17 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

Gender dysphoria can be medically studied, is not an ideology and is not a disorder. Hope this clears things up.

abcde666777 15 hours ago | parent | next [-]

What we call gender dysphoria is really just a cluster of symptoms around people's sense of their identity.

But identity as a whole is a very murky thing - if you ask me it's largely an adaptive abstraction that our minds invent.

The purpose of said adaption is to adopt a role which functions within the tribe/society for purposes of survival.

I think we way over-simplify the whole thing by making it about gender and gender roles.

And it's that over-simplification that I would label as the ideology. Because that's what ideologies do: they take the complex ambiguities of the world and try to cram them into a simplistic box.

signalfour 16 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

It stopped being centered around gender dysphoria quite a while ago. Gender identity is where it's at now, and the idea that one does not need to be dysphoric to be trans is currently the most mainstream one.

poly2it 15 hours ago | parent [-]

Yes, you do not need to be dysphoric to be transgender, however. It is actually quite difficult to compare rates of gendery dysphoria to transgender identity, as transgender identity is inherently self-reported, but studies on gender dysphoria focus on diagnosed cases, not undiagnosed estimates. Therefore it is also not possible to assert that non-dysphoria is dominant among current transitioning people as you do.