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shakow a day ago

As a Frenchman living in Paris – we have such a huge expat community already (and many english-speakers, I worked with Brits, Aussies, Kiwis, Americans, Canadians) than one more or less will be a non-event.

Now it's true that Americans tend to love to frighten each other with firecamp stories about the Big Bad Frenchman, but IME it's mostly a mix of latent francophobia and a grapevine of bad experience between what is locally perceived as wholly uneducated Americans and local Frenchmen that the Americans tend to see as arrogant.

The latest if most often due to (i) tourists forgetting that what is a great week you spent years saving for is another Tuesday for the other guys in the street, (ii) many fundamental French etiquette rules (don't shout, say “hello” first when talking to someone, the absence of a hierarchical relationship between hospitality personnel and customers, distant behaviour is not arrogance but a mark of respect, etc.) are completely accessory in the US customs, leading to very strong misunderstandings.

So book a trip for a week and come say hello, we don't bite! (and avoid like the plague any café/restaurant in the touristy areas)

orochimaaru a day ago | parent [-]

>>> say “hello” first when talking to someone, the absence of a hierarchical relationship between hospitality personnel and customers

These two are generally adhered to in the US as well. May be the hierarchy part is there if you're staying at really exclusive resorts. But by and large, most folks are polite.

There is obviously the random asshole. But those exist everywhere.

shakow a day ago | parent [-]

> These two are generally adhered to in the US as well

I'm not sure; granted I did not visit a lot of places in the US, but when I was there (Miami/Denver/Phoenix), I virtually never saw e.g. a customer greets the cashier when buying things.

Throaway1975123 18 hours ago | parent [-]

That would have been considered extremely rude in the past. But beginning with millennials, these kinds of "mandatory" niceties began to fall away. Now with smartphones, hardly anyone looks up at each anymore. Why would they? We all know how the transaction is gonna go.