Selfless effort. Be willing to ask for help with something, anything, even if you don't need it.

I can cut down a tree. But it's fun with friends.

I can do bad home renno but it's an in to keeping up with friends with a quick photo of the latest win/fail on signal /whatever floats your boat.

Because they're friends they might just say yes.

It's OK to ask them how they're going. Sometimes they will reply sometimes not and that's OK too.