Shaming like this doesn’t change people’s minds, it just makes them hide their feelings and introduces new or even greater feelings of guilt. The opposite of what you (hopefully) intended.

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nxor2 10 hours ago | parent [-]

Ironically, you are telling the above commenter to not comment as they did, so that op can comment as he did. If one person is allowed to share their thoughts then so is the other.

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matsemann 9 hours ago | parent [-]

One shared his own experience, the other is a direct attack on his kids and the parent. Quite a big difference. The "I pity your kids" is straight up vile.

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hosel 8 hours ago | parent | next [-]

How is it vile to pity children whose parents regret that they were born? Children whose father loathes spending time with them. Sorry, but maybe some people should feel shame sometimes

	▲	matsemann 8 hours ago \| parent \| next [-]
		Because it's performative pity. The person doesn't really care about that person's kids. They just wanted to attack the poster, and decided to do that through his kids.
	▲	gizmondo 6 hours ago \| parent \| prev [-]
		> Sorry, but maybe some people should feel shame sometimes Yes you definitely should try that.

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nxor2 9 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

Also ironically, you attack with the word "vile" and frame the other comment as an "attack." I can't with this site.

	▲	matsemann 8 hours ago \| parent \| next [-]
		Note the difference: I said something about a statement. They said something about that person's kids.
	▲	librish 9 hours ago \| parent \| prev [-]
		There's a difference between attacking an experience share and attacking an attack.