I would really like to have kids, but I don’t have my act together. I also feel like my partner is not suitable or capable of properly taking care of our kids. Feels pretty awful and am scared to not have any kids as I grow older. I worked hard to get a good relationship with my partner, and now that we have one I worry kids will only ruin what we have now

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Daneel_ 2 days ago | parent | next [-]

I hope you’re in a position where you can have an honest conversation about it with your partner. I’ve come to realise over time that honest and open communication is the most critical thing in any relationship. I really hope it works out for you both!

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chzblck 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

You'll never feel ready but you will always be ready. One of my biggest regrets is not having kids sooner

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whateveracct 2 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

your world will change in that hospital room the first day or two together with the new person in your family. it really is seismic.

	▲	mothballed 2 days ago \| parent [-]
		I never felt that and I attribute whatever happens to most people there as the reason why I never understood parenthood quite the way most people do. It seems as if most parents have some kind of 'drug' that dumps in their veins when they are around their kids. It's interesting to read about because it's like hearing an alien tell me what life is like.

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dominotw 2 days ago | parent | prev [-]

just go for it. there is never a really good time to have a kid.