Haven’t you considered that the fact you were exposed to these things made you who you are today am able to say that with conviction. If you had been shielded from the reality on human extremism you would not.

Vouched, because this was going to be my counterpoint as someone who had the same circumstances as the grandparent.

Despite the enormously heinous stuff I've seen on that site, it has made me a better writer, developed my critical thinking skills, and given me a perspective on the world and its people that wouldn't have existed without.

It also introduced me to many different things and developed my taste beyond measure.

The massive downside, that I suspect the grandparent still wrestles with, is integrating all of depravity of humankind into a coherent world view without falling into cognitive dissonance between the idealized and constructed world with an onslaught of information on the actual reality of it.

It's sort of like looking into the Epstein files and having to decide one's reaction to them:

- crushed by despair at the state of things leading to nihilism and depression

- deciding to ignore it all, and continuing to go on about one's life without integrating it

- acceptance, normalization, and corruption

- a secret fourth option that reaffirms you, using that news as fuel for whatever ends in the hope you can improve the world even if just a little bit, despite how ugly it is

And so on.