> It robs me of getting to know you.

Ugh, you are not entitled to get to know me. There is a threshold between all that I share with the world and the rest of me. Hell, not every person gets the same picture, and that's deliberate and healthy--my customers don't get to know what my proctologist knows. My mother doesn't get to know what my wife knows.

You don't get to know all of me, because I don't trust you.

This post comes across as sweet, and innocent. It also comes across as absurdly self-entitled, and it's not an OK posture to take towards the world. It's not OK when the police take this posture, it's not OK when private companies take this posture, and it's not OK when strangers on the internet take this posture.

You are entitled to withdraw from relationships that don't fulfill your emotional needs. A reasonable audience for this missive is your girlfriend, your child (who relies on you), or your employer (to whom you are vulnerable).

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applfanboysbgon 7 hours ago | parent | next [-]

Weaponised therapy speak is gross. This article was not asking you to spill your life story to every person you meet, it was asking you to speak with your own voice, which is a perfectly normal and in no way entitled thing to be asking.

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stingraycharles 8 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

What are you rambling about? It’s not about your doctor using ChatGPT for his newsletter, it’s about your colleagues using ChatGPT on Slack or email.

I personally think that the people who can’t be bothered to actually write authentic messages, and assume that everyone will just read their word salad full of repetitive AI patterns, are being the ones acting entitled.

	▲	lich_king 6 hours ago \| parent [-]
		It is, because of the baked-in asymmetry. "I couldn't be bothered to write it, but you have to read it". Unless your expectation is that I'm going to have my chatbot summarize the messages from your chatbot, in which case, maybe we should just both ride off into the sunset.

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duskdozer 2 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

It's not "getting to know you" in that sense, it's getting to know the public face you present, whether I can trust you, and how I can interact with you most smoothly. If you're my coworker and you don't ever want to talk about your family or friends or personal interests or problems or anything, that's fine.

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em-bee 2 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

in some cultures getting to know you is a crucial part of a business relationship. no connection -> no business.

likewise for friends (not just your girlfriend), getting to know you is part of developing friendship.

so family, friends, work, business, that pretty much covers everyone you deal with on a regular basis.

i would go as far as saying that if you don't trust me then you have no business even communicating with me unless the interaction is incidental.

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ryandrake 7 hours ago | parent | prev | next [-]

I'm so tired of hearing that word online.

True: Nobody is entitled to be treated nicely. Nobody is entitled to an open, friendly relationship. Nobody is entitled to get to know you. If we only did what we were entitled to do, and received what we were entitled to receive, the world would be an even shittier place than it already is. We have enough people walking around with the "You're not entitled to me being nice, so I'm not gonna be! nyaaaaa!" attitudes.

	▲	em-bee 2 hours ago \| parent [-]
		and acťually i believe the opposite is true: we are entitled to be treated nicely. we are entitled to an open and friendly relationship. and while i agree that we are not entitled to get to know you, i'd prefer to deal with an authentic person, because hiding behind a generic facade makes it easier for someone to impersonate you, putting you at risk of becoming a victim of identity theft.

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EFreethought 2 hours ago | parent | prev [-]

> Ugh, you are not entitled to get to know me.

If your comment is at all indicative of how you are in real life, I really don't think you have to worry about people wanting to get to know you.