This is not at all just an LLM thing. I've been working with C# and MS SQL Server for many years and never even considered this could be happening when I use Dapper. There's likely code I have deployed running suboptimally because of this.

And it's not like I don't care about performance. If I see a small query taking more than a fraction of a second when testing in SSMS or If I see a larger query taking more than a few seconds I will dig into the query plan and try to make changes to improve it. For code that I took from testing in SSMS and moved into a Dapper query, I wouldn't have noticed performance issues from that move if the slowdown was never particularly large.