> This is a false equivalency.

I'm not making an equivalency. I'm just trying to get you to think how something that is at surface level true is not necessarily a "fair argument".

> I don't have to use TikTok DMs if I want E2EE.

I don't know why you think this is a convincing argument. It is currently illegal to tap people's phone lines, but when phones were invented it obviously was not illegal. It became illegal in part because people had a reasonable expectation of privacy when using the phone. They also have a reasonable expectation of privacy when using TikTok DMs - that's why people call them "private messages" so often!

> Exactly why I suggested that as a possible alternative.

My point is that you are offering these as alternatives when they are profoundly different proposals. It is like me saying I am pro forced sterilization and then offering as an alternative "we could just only allow it when people ask for it". That's a completely different thing! Having autonomy over your online life as a family rather than necessarily as an individual is totally ok. Surrendering that autonomy is not.